Your happiness is important, but so is your daughters. Women don't have the option for sterilization unless they've already had children. Here's the kicker, if a blood test proves that you are not the father, whether the real father is made known by proof or not, then the presumed father must still pay child support. Honestly, I hope you guys work out. I am a single woman in my 40's.
For anyone to look down on or say you absolutely will change your mind is very wrong, all I am saying is stay responsible. You made the decision to have those kids. Sometimes it can be complicated for a man who doesnot have kids to understand that the woman will always put her children before their spouse. Due to serious domestic violence we broke up in April. The father before had been divorced from an adulterous wife and picked her right up a few months into the job that she was working at as his employee. Its draining me in the sense I feel pulled in each direction.
She has sole custody of her 9-year-old daughter. I would have thought it easier to attract guys when they know you have no dependants and ties. I applaud you for knowing what your limitations are. I have tried almost everything to find that special someone, but alas, everybody I meet has or wants kids. An 'acknowledged father' is the biological father of a child born and whom paternity has been established. Whatever the reasons for that decision doesn't matter. Or four, a man had welcomed a child into his relationship and home and chose to call the child his own.
I respect that and sounds like you understand what you can or can't afford. No children in a relationship often means complete freedom to do exactly what you want when you want to do it, so it's no wonder there are so many singles who have made a conscious decision to search for someone like minded. Instead, this site is about quality, not quantity. Child Free Singles is here to help you find that person. Many children of divorced homes have serious issues. I hate it and I wish single mothers would back off and start dating single dads! When you date a never married guy, maybe a bit younger.
Perhaps somebody might just stumble upon it. Which decision is more permanent: having kids or not having kids? You are the one who will be committed to this person and if you marry them they need to satisfy your needs! No one owes you and your kids anything. If trying to talk to her is like constantly hitting a brick wall — honestly just leave, because shes never going to be on board with you or any man. I am a 30 yr old single mother of a 7 year old daughter. Ironically, many people create profiles but remove them the same day when they do not immediately see a match. The permanent decisions are down the road, not in your 20's.
But I don't know why a guy would stick around in that situation, especially knowing he could be on the hook for 18 years of child support for someone else's kid. When I try to be respectful about staying in my lane, I am asked to take more of role. Yes it can happen perhaps this is why my son remains single. Like I said, children might be very rewarding. None of my co-workers or friends +50 , wish to have children. Is she scared of getting hurt again? His son draws pictures of himself crying all the time. My only gripe is that if I become pregnant I'm 28 , I wouldn't risk my life or health by having an abortion, I'd have it.
Not every single mom and her kids will be alike, so be careful of generalizing and promoting the idea that all single moms and their kids are more trouble than they are worth. Viciously probing and pertinent questions involving sex, money and kids i. I believe if he truly loves me he was gonna accept me with my package cz i have accepted him with all his faults. I have the opposite situation where he is single, never married and no kids. And you may have other reasons, all good ones.
Sign up now to enjoy free chat, message boards and email. I was just pointing out even with the free vasectomy it is very easy to be found paying for kids you not only didn't want but kids you didn't even sire. It sounds like you are unhappy with the relationship, and looking for a way out. Kids are expensive and its only getting worse as they get older. There seems to be a hype on why men run away from women with children and albiet, some threads of why women run away from men. Translation: Why should men look for single mothers? Your views on children could change.
I am 39, divorcee of a 7 year marriage, and I have three kids. At my current age of 45 years, the last thing I wish to contemplate is diapers, pre-schools, babysitters, and saving for future college tuition. She had a vague interest in children when we first met, yet by the time we split, she couldn't complete a single sentence without talking about having babies. I think it's all up to the individual you are dealing with. Absolutely no restrictions or games. You are a separate relationship to her family. Don't let anyone say you are selfish for I feel if you don't want kids and are safe better that, than having them and bailing.