Why is he unsure of his feelings? I was googling yet again in my desperation to understand why it is that I am constantly attracted to, and them to me, this type of man. Fear isn't what causes most people to not want to start a relationship with someone--lack of attraction is what causes that no matter what excuse they call. If he truly values you, this will only increase those feelings; whereas, if you were to stay in a casual relationship, you're communicating to him that you don't respect yourself and you'll settle for anything. Thanks for listening and I hope you can enlighten me. If you start to understand that he needs to fell infatuated all of the time then decide from there. . I am no longer scared that part of me is exposed if I dated someone close to me.
It sounds like yours could too. Shortly after Pride weekend it became evident that we might be looking for different things he was attending parties in the gay scene that are provocative etc. Without this, what's right or wrong become mute points. She has introduced me to and included me to her grown children. Have fun on your dates and stop worrying! I know it will completely transform your love life. After we've finally met over coffee four months ago, we have been in touch every single day. Yet not at the expense of myself.
Maybe wait until he meets with the psychologist and see what comes of that? So a week before he go, he was drunk again and telling me that he wants to travel the world first that so unfair to me to wait for him etc. I am looking after myself though so I can move forward in my life. He said he wants to be in a relationship with me but he doesn't know when it will be a right time again. I know the answer of what to do must sound obvious but I do honestly believe he wants to change because he says he loves me all the time and talks about a future with me and wants to see me all the time. I don't think I really worded this the best I could.
So why do you feel like you deserve no better than this? I then backed off a bit, and he asked what was going on. I mean I came here for him and although I will stay here another 3 weeks I would think he'd want to see me now that I'm here. If you start having expectations, it puts a lot of pressure on the situation and things will start to get out of control once again. I know it sucks, but the less you hear about him, the quicker you move on. You did what was best for you, no matter how much it hurts.
I do start the conversation and he could stay as long as he could. I really appreciate any comment on this. But since we will have an out of town so i havent decided to leave him. I really had no choice but to believe him, because he has been honest up to this point. I thought we were on track to a proposal, and I figured it was imminent. He ended up saying we only got back together because it's what I wanted.
But I learned and I learned a hard lesson. He defined love better than a dictionary, because I wasn't sure if what I was feeling was love or if I was in love. He has lived with a woman before, a divorcee with a kid! He told me in December he didn't want to lead me on. Last night we go out on a date and we got into a conversation about where we are. No matter how serious it becomes, be prepared to deal with trauma alone.
The feelings may never go away, but the ball is ultimately in his court. That weekend, I packed my bags and treated myself to some alone time. Wait for the one and don't settle. A month later I found out he never quit seeing other people. Either he was unable to communicate his feelings until he exploded he is a ppl pleaser or he would be around friends and didn't feel the need to reach out to me for hours on end.
One thing I discovered after 40+ years and therapy. The respect has got to be mutual. I hear you're having a hard time letting go, but what you're seeing is the reality of what was there and what is his to sort out, not yours. Sidenote- he lost a family member very close to him a couple of weeks before he moved out, and it was the day of the services that he decided he was leaving. So i left him, and then he texted me he was asking his self if he was ready, i told him nobody is telling that we will gonna get married and he can do whatever he wants.
I now consider this as a learning experience and a time for growth since I'm trying to keep calm and not freak out. Hi there, I'm pretty much in need of some help and guidance, and any comment is going to be very well received. Until you are sure that he has completely recovered and he is ready to commit to someone without the fear of being it a rebound, don't express your feelings. It took me months to move forward. He began to distance himself and I gave him space.